(that’s me with the facial hair and big grin)
After my fifty year high school class reunion at the end of August I found myself wondering about high school classes in general, and mine in particular. And whether mine was still “cliquey?”
[My American Heritage College Dictionary defines clique as a "small exclusive (Italics mine) group of friends or associates." I believe the exclusivity is what gives the word is negative connotations.]
I have no doubts that there were cliques back in the late ’50′s when I was in high school. There were economic “haves” and “have-nots.” There were town kids and country kids or farmers(some were in FFA and wore the blue jackets.) And there were “jocks,” “non-jocks,” “brains” and those not so brainy. Lots of groups.
And there was another group I’ll call the “jet set,” that cut across lines and included some from every group but the jocks. This group smoked and drank beer and stayed out late at night.
I was economically in the “have not” group, but was a good athlete and student and was in the band. I was not a “jet setter.”
Years later some fellow students insist that cliques are a thing of the past, but I wonder. I know there are those who refuse to come to reunions because of cliques and I’ve always been sure of the existence of cliques.
Fifty years removed from high school I like to think I’m wiser, and have begun to see that people naturally break off into groups. Some of them are groups (cliques?) that have existed since their school days, and certainly we’re more likely to talk with old friends, but there is also the camaraderie of getting together with people you shared time with, whether you were in their group/clique or not.
So maybe they’re not really “cliques” but just “groups.” What do you think?